What do you do when your baby begins to use new teeth to bite you or someone else? Biting hurts! So how do you make it stop? You’ve tried saying, “No!” You’ve tried distracting her. But nothing’s worked. What do you do now?
Without a doubt, biting another person is unacceptable, on this planet, anyway. We’re aghast, whether it’s our babe or another whose flesh and feelings get injured, whether we’ve witnessed it or heard tales. And flummoxed dismay brings up lots more than children’s tears.
This season of giving prompts us to begin our look at a tool that’s available to any parent who wants it. It’s the perfect gift to give yourself at holiday time . . . or anytime.
Let’s find out how and why this gift not only keeps on giving to you; it also gives to your child, the entire family, and to everyone within earshot of a whiner.
Let’s review your experiences with sing-songing this past month and then address more why’s and how’s for nipping whining in the bud.
Some of you reported an eagerness to try out sing-songing. Many shared enthusiasm for positive strategies. A couple parents shared stats collected around who pays attention to impromptu sing-songing: Kids do! And, they found, store employees and other fellow planet dwellers sent kudos to parents and others who work to end kids’ whining!
We find that whining, like biting behaviors, strikes a chord for many. As we wrap the topic this month, we’ll review your comments and then address more whine-nipping strategies. First, though, note whining’s self-reflective nature: one could whine ad nauseam about its effect on us. Ha!
Did you know that your child's listening and speaking vocabulary by age 4 is an important predictor of his later success as a reader, writer, and a lifelong learner?
And did you know that the richness of the words you model--when you talk and read aloud every day-determines the exact words your child will hear . . . and say?
How to Ask About Your Child’s Day
Ask open-ended questions with purpose, such as:
“What kind words did you hear today?”
How to Help Your Child Be a Reader
Put age-appropriate books, newspapers, magazines next to your ready-reader––beside the toilet.
Q: I want my child to have good thinking skills. We read aloud every day. Does that help?
A: Absolutely yes! Did you know you’re building critical thinking skills and much more every time you talk about that story or poem you’ve read aloud? For example, suppose you've read Margaret Wise Brown’s Goodnight Moon with your infant or toddler.
Here’s how to handle it at home or in your classroom.
While ushering your child to the bathroom, say:
“Oh, I see you need some privacy to do that. You can use toilet paper for your nose in private. When you’re all done, just come on out.”
Reading Head Start: Housing Your Child’s Library
Put a box or basket of books in every room and in the bathroom.